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National Coming Out Day Rant

October 11th is National Coming Out Day.  In honor of this holiday, I’ll gladly share that I’m bisexual.  I hope that’s not an issue for you.  If it is, you have an issue.

For anyone who doesn’t understand bisexuality, it means I am attracted to both genders.  That doesn’t mean that I’m a slut or that I have to date both men and women to be happy.  It simply means that a person’s gender isn’t a deal-breaker when I’m deciding who I want to date.

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I love holidays in general, but this holiday makes me a little sad because a person’s sexuality is still an ongoing issue.   We have teens committing suicide left and right because of it.  I mean, who cares who someone falls in love with?  I’m all for consenting adults falling in love.  I don’t care what they do behind closed doors.  If you don’t want to watch two people holding hands or kissing in public, don’t look.  I do that all the time with I see people, usually a hetero couple, gratuitously sucking face.

I tend to laugh at homophobic people’s reasons for being homophobic.  The best ones usually come from straight guys who say, “I don’t want some dude hitting on me.”  I generally have two responses for this guy:

  1. What person, gay or straight, is going to be attracted to you and your narrow mind?
  2. You should be flattered that any person is attracted to you.  If you’re secure in who you are, you should be able to handle that person’s advances with class if you do not reciprocate their feelings.

I’m all for the government giving the same rights to any couple.  If the United States is going to give married heteros certain rights, they should give the married homos the same rights.  I don’t care what they call it, whether it’s “marriage” or “civil union,” but they have to use the same term for straight and gay unions.

Given the state of the economy, I’d expect the government to support gay marriage.  Our country will get back on track faster if we’re spending money.  Do you know how much it costs to get married?  There are the clothes, the rings, the flowers, the reception, the travel expenses, and the honeymoon for starters.  And unfortunately, after the wedding, at least half of these couples will eventually get divorces, which includes legal expenses, buying and selling property, and the post-divorce party.  All of this is good for business.

So Happy National Coming Out Day one and all.  To the baby gays out there, I hope your coming out process has been supported by your loved ones, and if it hasn’t, know that support is available.  If other people’s non-heterosexuality is an issue for you, please get over it.  It’s not a big deal.

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    1. Ruth Carter says:

      You’re welcome!

  1. Lynne says:

    this holiday makes me a little sad because a person’s sexuality is still an ongoing issue.

    Your post makes me sad because you choose to make a mockery of the debate over Columbus Day and Native American Day. Way to marginalize an entire people by appropriating the one day a year when others could actually focus on their suffering.

    1. Ruth Carter says:

      My post had nothing to do with Columbus Day or Native American Day. I’m sorry for any confusion that I inadvertently created.

      I look forward to the day when a person’s sexuality is simply an accepted fact. I hope that someday sexuality will be seen as an inherent trait like height or eye color.

      1. Lynne says:

        No, I know it has nothing to do with the issue. That’s the point. Those were in place LONG before people came up with “National Coming Out Day”. Yet not only did you feel the need to appropriate the day and deny recognition for long-standing celebrations and issues; you continue to ignore their existence. Here’s an idea: do some searches about the controversies surrounding those celebrations on October 11, and write a post on them. Learning to care about other people and their issues is an essential part of practicing law.

        1. Ruth Carter says:

          I was only looking at the holiday itself, not the reason behind selecting that date. I’ll take your suggestion into consideration if I write a blog for next year’s Coming Out Day.

  2. Chandra Farris says:

    I just wanted to note that Columbus Day/Indifenous People’s Day was actually Monday, October 8th. I am not sure how a blog post about a different holiday falling days after that is in any way an appropriation of the prior holiday or a mockery of it.

    1. Ruth Carter says:

      I have no idea how October 11th was chosen as National Coming Out Day except that October is gay history month.